Becoming Parents: Our Journey of Fostering and Adoption

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Who knew waking up on February 5, 2018 that our lives would change forever. This is the day we got the call from my husband’s cousin to see if we would be interested in fostering her sister’s baby that was born the day before. Now keep in mind, we don’t have children of our own unless you count fur-babies (which we do). This baby was born drug-exposed and was going through withdrawals so they weren’t sure if the baby would end up in the NICU, but they knew that if we didn’t take the baby, she would go to a foster home.

The state was already involved being that this wasn’t the first child born to the birth mother, so the family knew she wouldn’t get to keep her. My heart leapt with excitement and anxiety. I had so many questions racing thru my mind and anger that someone could do this to an innocent child. My husband and I discussed the idea of bringing a baby home and what we would immediately need if we did decide to take her. We decided to go see the baby at the hospital and have the conversation with his family on what the options were. That’s when I saw the most precious baby I’ve ever laid my eyes on. So small and quiet and going through her own personal hell of withdrawing from the drugs she didn’t ask to take. I immediately told my husband, “Let’s get the house ready; we can’t let her go anywhere else!”  He completely agreed and we decided to start the journey of fostering.

It turns out, it’s not as easy as taking the baby home and we get to live our lives. We were now at the mercy of caseworkers, getting certified to be foster parents, classes, doctor visits, and visitations with family, court dates, and so much more. Our home and everything we do is looked at with a fine tooth comb. I wouldn’t change any of it. I never knew I could love something as much as I love this little girl. She has completely changed the way I feel about myself, my husband, and how I see our lives. It has been four months and watching her turn into her own little person is the most amazing thing. She was able to overcome the withdrawal symptoms and with the right environment and love, she is thriving. The doctors say she looks perfect and is developing right on target. Obviously as she gets older, that could change because who knows what long-term effects drugs could do to a newborn. I do know my husband and I will love her no matter what and will do whatever we can to give her the right opportunities to thrive.

We just completed the classes to adopt but we still have a long road before that is able to take place. Coming from a background of fertility issues, we knew having biological children wasn’t in the cards for us. This little blessing came into our lives just when we least expected it. I’ve had many titles in my life but being a wife and now, mommy, is my all-time favorite.

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Aimee is a St. Louis native who grew up in Afton and attended Bishop DuBourg High School. She received her Bachelor’s in Business Administration from Lindenwood University in 2016. Aimee has worked in many different fields but found her career as a project manager for CI Select in 2017. Aimee is married to her husband Joshua, whom she met nearly 7 years ago. They reside in Valmeyer, IL and are the adoptive parents to one beautiful daughter. They have two spoiled fur babies, Jake and Chloe, who rule the roost. Aimee enjoys reading, writing, hiking, traveling, motorcycle riding, trying new restaurants, and spending time with family, especially her toddler. Aimee also enjoys spending time on her charcuterie board business, For the Love of Grazing.

3 COMMENTS

  1. Bless you guys! Families are sewn together by the fabric of love and you and you husband have plenty to go around and share. You all couldn’t have been more blessed to have your paths cross. So sad she had a rough start but smoothed out by some new great parents! Thanks for sharing your journey!

  2. I wish I could write an inspirational letter to keep with you as the years go by, just let me say, I know the two of you will be wonderful parents !! This baby will enrich your lives like nothing else! I wish I could be around to see her grow up but that probably won’t happen but that’s ok. she’ll be in good hands. Just always be involved in her life, it’s ok to be snoopy parents, if a situation looks uncomfortable, trust your gut! Remember, you’re the parent!
    Good luck with this incredible journey and enjoy!!
    Love you all and God Bless!!!

  3. Aimee,
    Opening your heart and home to love is what life is all about. Your baby girl is lucky to have you and Josh in her life. God puts people in your life for a reason. I believe that this was meant to be. I was involved in watching a baby born to addiction become a vibrant , active and beautiful teenager. Not easy watching them go through the withdrawal process but with love and proper care there is a light at the end of the tunnel. God Bless you on this wonderful journey.

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