Registering for a baby can be extremely daunting for a new parent. I will always remember, as most do, my first anxiety-inducing trip to Buy Buy Baby. That place really should include a paper bag to breathe in for all first-time customers!
To help you start your journey to motherhood off, some of the St. Louis Mom contributing writers and I compiled a list of our favorite registry must-haves and shared some of our tried-and-true tips and resources for mom life.
Zip up pajamas (no snaps, no matter how cute the pajamas, trust us on this one).
Sleepsacks with zippers (you’ll need a few due to blowouts and spit-up. Halo and Burt’s Bees make great options).
A high chair that fits under the table so your baby can feel a part of the family at the table as opposed to away from the table in a stand-alone chair.
A great stroller. Jogging strollers work best for multipurpose use. BOB Gear and J is for Jeep by Delta Children have nice options.
Nipple shield for nursing
White noise machine (fans and air purifiers work as well for white noise if you need something that does double duty).
Waterproof Changing Pad Liners (these work great not only for the changing pad but if you have a baby that loves to spit-up, they are great for laying underneath the baby to protect your couch, floor, etc. from spit-up stains).
Resources and Tips
Kid: aged 17 months
Keep any items you find on an Amazon Registry, even if you won’t need them for years. This helps you keep track of things, so you don’t have to research items again down the line for things like potty training, feeding, books, or toys. It’s also an easy way to let family and friends know what your child needs for holidays and birthdays.
Kangaroo Kids is a resale shop with a great selection of gently used items. Resale is perfect for larger items like strollers, high chairs, swings, baby seats, wraps, etc., so you don’t waste so much on something that doesn’t work. Bonus, you can always resell it back if it doesn’t work. They also have a fabulous selection of toys, clothes, and shoes.
Kids: aged 5 and 2
Trust your Gut! Be honest about your own mental health at your 6-week checkup and schedule something around that 3-4 month mark with your primary care physician to check your blood work and do a depression screening!
Resource: Kindermusik classes for infants/toddlers through Webster Community Music School.
Kids: aged 6 and 4
Once your kids are predictably sleeping, wake before they do each morning and have some moments to exercise, read, drink coffee, or sit and be yourself before you are ‘mom’ for the day.
Find a group online that jives with you and use it as a place to ask questions and seek answers as they arise.
Kid: aged 3
Fed is best!
Kids: aged 10 and 4
Take the help. If someone offers to do your dishes, make you dinner, do the laundry, or hold the baby so you can sleep — LET THEM! If they don’t offer, ASK THEM!
NurtureShock by Po Bronson and Ashley Merryman is an eye-opening read that helped me feel more secure when I wanted to go against the grain in a parenting decision.
Kids: aged 10, 9 and 5
Find a mom group either at church, MOPS, Facebook, or through school or the gym and lean on those women. They will help you and sustain you.
Kids: aged 2 and 4
PPD is so unbelievably common and can be severe. Take it seriously. Once a baby is born, the conversation shifts from “How are you?” to “How is the baby?”. You need to be healthy to be a good mom so take care of yourself!
Postpartum Support International has amazing resources, a hotline, and information on ways to support you state-by-state.
Kids: aged 4, 2, and newborn on the way!
Pelvic floor physical therapy is a game-changer for recovering your health post-baby. Do it!!
Find a fellow mom you can go to any time and pour your heart out. Even an older mentor can bring voice and reason to the momentary troubles of new motherhood!